Do you know what your wife does all day?

About one in five adults in monogamous relationships, or 22 percent, have cheated on their current partner. The rate is even higher among married men. And nearly half of people admit to being unfaithful at some point in their lives, according to the results of the MSNBC.com/iVillage Lust, Love & Loyalty survey.

Spending years together, exchanging wedding rings, even having children doesn’t inoculate a couple against cheating. In fact, married folks with kids — including women with very young children — are nearly as likely to commit adultery as childless couples.

Indeed, having kids is no deterrent. According to the survey, 15 percent of women and 16 percent of men with children ages 2 to 5 years had an affair. An unexpected 7 percent of women and 9 percent of men cheated while there was a baby under the age of 2 in the home.

It is interesting how much married people are willing to risk just to have somebody temporarily make them feel desirable. I have seen both sides of this issue in my romantic history and I know how damaging it is to have a spouse, or girlfriend, who suddenly decides that you are not giving them what they need so they are tempted to seek it elsewhere rather then try and save what they already have. And truthfully I have not exactly been and angel either.

This has led me to believe that monogamous relationships may not be a possibility for me. I do think they work for some but not necessarily for me.

So it is just passionate temporary sexual interludes for me in the foreseeable future. Damn the luck.