38% of Americans still believe that premarital sex is wrong. Well clearly they are not doing it right.

Fewer than four-in-ten American adults (38%) now say that sexual relations between a man and woman before marriage is always or almost always wrong compared with nearly six in ten (59%) who say that it is only sometimes or never wrong. Not surprisingly, premarital sex is even more accepted as morally OK by adults who have themselves engaged in it. A recent Pew survey found that about a third of all adults (and more than four-in-ten adults under age 50) have, at some point in their lives, been in a cohabiting relationship with a person to whom they were not married. Among this group only 21% believe that premarital sex is always or usually wrong. Demographically, cohabiters are more likely than the rest of the adult population to be younger, black, and secular rather than religious.

I am a product of the free love mindset of the sixties and seventies so perhaps my views are a little slanted. But I just cannot believe that there are people who still cling to this primitive idea.

Take it from somebody who has loved and lost, and loved and lost, and just simply lost. If you are not physically compatible then your relationship is doomed.

The only other reason given for the breaking up of a marriage mentioned more often then sex is money. So if your wife is not giving you enough sex, and you don't have enough money to hire a professional, then you are screwed. (Obviously not in the good way.)

This whole idea is linked to religious beliefs. The idea was to keep women from having children outside their religious groups. And Christian people were sold the idea that if a child were born without the sanctity of a Christan marriage its soul would burn in hell. So essentially that is the church using fear to convince primitive people to make only Christian babies. It is the same tactic used by many religions to increase their numbers.

But with the introduction of birth control there is no longer any reason to save it for marriage. Oh and don't forget the condoms to help prevent the spread of disease, in case one or both of you have already taken the goodies out for a spin.

Now I am not advocating that everybody just start sleeping with everybody else. We would never get anything else done that way. But I am saying that if you love somebody and want to give them pleasure then go for it. You have no reason to feel guilty and if you are compatible in that regard that is just one more reason to want to spend your lives together.

By the way if this post helps you get laid, you are welcome.