Courtesy of Leader-Telegram:
A day after Regis Catholic Schools announced Tim Nelson would not become its next president, he charged that Regis officials pulled the job offer based on speculation he may be gay.
Nelson, 48, who was announced April 4 as the choice to lead the local private school system, said Friday he was "flabbergasted" when system officials informed him nearly three weeks later they intended to revoke his contract because of concerns about his sexual orientation.
"The whole thing is based on assumptions, innuendo and speculation," an obviously upset Nelson said by telephone from New Mexico, where he has worked as supervising principal of a group of American Indian community schools for the past eight years.
Regis denied the allegations Friday in a statement.
"Regis Catholic Schools denies that any assumptions, insinuations or speculation played a part in its decision to not hire Mr. Nelson," the statement said. "Furthermore, Regis Catholic Schools categorically denies that sexual orientation was a part in its decision. Mr. Nelson's speculation is unfounded and untrue."
But Nelson, who was excited about the prospect of leading the parochial school system he attended through his junior year of high school, claimed Regis officials made it clear in several conversations they were concerned about the perception he may be gay and what impact that might have on the system.
As it turned out this decision to change their mind on hiring Mr. Nelson, happened to take place AFTER his father's obituary appeared in the paper. (what is with obituaries outing gay people these days?)
The Rev. Brian Konopa, pastoral dean of Regis schools, broke the news about "serious issues that have come to the forefront" in a telephone call on April 17, or 13 days after Nelson had been introduced as the next Regis president, Nelson said.
Regis officials indicated someone had given them information showing that a man's name was listed in parentheses behind Nelson's in the survivor list of his father's obituary 2½ years ago, and they told him that is typically the way a gay partner is listed in an obituary, Nelson said.
Nelson said he explained to Konopa that he considered the man his best friend and that the man was close to Nelson's family.
"I said, ‘If you think we are intimate or sexually active, you've got another think coming.' We are not like that at all," Nelson recalled telling Konopa.
Okay here's the thing, I actually think that MR. Nelson MIGHT be gay, but so damn what? The fact that he feels he must deny who he is in order to work at a school that he so clearly loves is shameful.
And if i am wrong and Mr. Nelson is straight, then their rejection of him is just that much more egregious.
I mean let's face it if your religion of love and acceptance dictates that you mistreat a fellow human being based on their biology, than your may have to market your religion as one of hatred and intolerance instead.
Try putting asses in church pews with THOSE labels.
If he was good enough for the job as a straight man, why is he not good enough as a gay man?
Do you know Tim Nelson personally, Gryphen? Have you ever met him? We should ALL give him the benefit of the doubt. If he says he is not gay, then we, who do not know him at all, have no reason to assume that he "might be gay."
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My point was that based on the information it might lead anybody to consider that Mr. Nelson was gay.
DeleteHowever the fact that people feel free to speculate on his sexuality as a means of deciding if he is fit for a job, is completely indefensible in my opinion.
I know Nelson personally. He and Pat have been gay lovers for decades. His lies, cover-ups, and denials just make matters worse.
DeleteI hope he sues the holy hell out of that district. If it has to close down, what real loss is it to the community considering the policies and possiby the philosophy of the curriculum.
ReplyDeletePerception indeed. I have the clear perception that the administrationn of that district are cowardly homophobes. Let them prove me wrong.
I have a message for the "Stop Taking Stuff Away from Us" hard right conservatives:
ReplyDeleteNo one is taking anything away from you. You still have your religion, you still have your family, you still have your values, you still have your ideology, you still have your country, you still have your guns....
This is not a take away situation. FOX and conservative radio is lying to you. This is a give someone something situation.
Recently, an NBA player came out of the closet. His name is Jason Collins. When Jason came out nothing was taken from you. Instead, Jason was given something. He was given the right to live as openly and freely as all of us. It cost you nothing.
Nothing.
Some things are not about you at all. Some things have nothing to do with you. Some things are about someone else.
This is one of them.
Actually, things are being taken away from them. Here are two biggies:
Delete1. The freedom to do or say whatever they please without regard to how it affects others.
2. The advantage over 'others' in most situations in life - less competition for education and jobs, preferential treatment in banks, the justice system, etc.
Pray tell just HOW MANY GAY PRIESTS are there in the Catholic Church, and just HOW MANY GAY TEACHERS are currently teaching in catholic schools???
ReplyDeleteWTF is wrong with these hypocrites???
You've no doubt heard about the priest from Brazil who is pro gay who got excommunicated by his bishop, one of the asshats who covered up pedophiles?
DeleteOT But, I can't resist: http://instagram.com/p/Y8AxyJhOuc/# Caption: Sarah Palin came to Derby lunch. I hope she falls in the mud. Another comment: Push her. You're close enough to spit.
ReplyDeleteThis rivals yesterday's photo where Palin was so happy to pose with a major Democratic supporter (Pritzker) and the Tesla Car guy, Musk (whom Sarah had royally dissed). Their comments were equally unflattering. How interesting that these are the few photos of such a well known celebrity at the famous Kentucky Derby.
The other thing that is funny is a comment from one of her bewildered fans about not being able to download an instagram photo. I don't want to be the one to tell him how to capture an image and what he could do with it-- because it's Sarah Palin.
The other funny comment over there is this:
Good afternoon patriots. I was surfing around the web and came across a little info on the current top ten male/female names for dogs. I just found it very interesting that 2 of the female names were Willow and Piper! I swear the first thing I thought of was Palin Power entering into the culture and this is one of the evidences of it. Just thought you all might get a kick out it. God bless :)
Yes, it is really a sign of popularity when people name their dogs after your children.
Not nearly so bad as what $carah Payme has named HER shildren after, is it?
DeleteWell for once the catholics are doing the right thing. They have enough trouble with their queer pedophile priests that they don't need more of the fuckers in their mess of a church.
ReplyDelete12:11PM For the three millionths time, PEDOPHILIA IS NOT HOMOSEXUALITY.
DeleteIf you do not know the difference between pedophile and gay then you are really too ignorant to be taken seriously.
DeleteI think the Catholic church is WRONG WRONG WRONG in their position about gays. But I think they have a right to be WRONG. And I don't think anyone is entitled to a job with the Catholic Church. And I think if a gay person applying for a job with the CC does not tell the Catholic Church they are gay, they are risking the job. It might be a good risk, and a good decision, but it is a risk.
ReplyDeleteNow, if you want to talk about taking tax exemptions away from all churches, I'm all ears and full of support. And if you want to say if you get tax breaks, you must abide by these rules, I'm totally in. Unfortunately, I don't think that's what the laws say, and I don't think we have a right to tell the Catholic church what to believe - although we have every right to tell them they are WRONG WRONG WRONG (but it probably won't be very effective.)
Yaah, from the new Pope's comment (crickets chirping), I see lots of changes in store for the Catholic Church!
ReplyDeleteThe fist stinks from the head down, folks!
Sue them, Mr. Nelson!