Monday, February 27, 2012

Proud Parent Time.

This last post of the day will be a little self indulgent, so pardon me if it is not what you usually expect here at IM.

This morning my daughter left the house at around 8:30 to get to her job downtown. We were kind of goofing around as she left and I was giving her a hard time for leaving her laundry blocking the laundry room door and then acting surprised that I did it for her. (She KNOWS I cannot stand to see dirty laundry cluttering up my house.)

About ten or twelve minutes after she left my phone rings. I see by the caller ID that it is her and I answer.

"Hello, did you forget something?

There is a pause. "Hi Dad." Her voice sounds a little shaky to me.

"Hi?" Another pause. This starts to worry me so I decide to speak first.

"Honey? Something wrong?"

"I just saw a car flip over on the highway."

"What?" And then I go straight into parent mode. "Are you alright?"

"Yeah, yeah, I'm fine. I am just standing on the side of the road with two pregnant women and I think one of them is going into labor."

"I'm sorry, what?"

"Yeah there were two pregnant women in the truck that flipped over and I am standing with them until the ambulance gets here."

"On the highway?" The word "ambulance" kick-starts my pre-programmed parental responses again and so I ask "Are you sure YOU are alright?"

"Oh yeah everybody's fine."

"Okay can you tell me EXACTLY what happened?"

"Well, I was driving down the New Seward highway and somebody in the lane to my left suddenly slammed on their brakes, and the truck behind them could not stop in time and careened off onto a snow berm and flipped over on its roof."

"Is anybody hurt?"

"No, no everybody's fine. I pulled the two women out of the truck window, and the driver, a guy, got out on his own."

"Wait, what? YOU pulled the women out of the truck?" In my mind I am envisioning my five foot four daughter dashing across lanes of oncoming traffic to pry two pregnant women out of an upside down truck, and my stress level starts to rise.

"Yeah, don't worry it wasn't on fire or anything." (Well great, THAT possibility had not even occurred to me yet!)

"What the hell. Didn't anybody else stop to help?"

"Just one other person stopped. What is wrong with people that they can drive off and leave a truck upside down in the snow? I wasn't sure if anybody else called so I called 911. Only the lady on the other end kept telling me to calm down. I thought I was calm, so I asked her 'don't I sound calm?' Apparently I didn't."

"Well honey, the 911 operator would probably be an expert on whether you were calm or not, so I would take her word for it. Are you feeling better now? Or is your heart racing a mile a minute?"

"Yep, it's still racing, but I don't feel upset.  Just pissed off that nobody else stopped to help."

"So the only people to stop were you and one other person?"

"Yes, this other woman stopped too. There were dozens of cars that saw this happen but they just drove away."

"But not you."

"No, not me. And I know you wouldn't have driven away either, would you?"

"No, of course I wouldn't."

"Well there you go then. You did not raise me to drive away from people in need either."

"No I didn't."

"Okay Dad, I have to go now. The ambulance is pulling up and I need to talk to them, and then I need to get to work. Bye, I love you."

"I love you t....." Right about then the line went dead.

As I write this she is still at work, and will be until late tonight, so I have not had the chance to find out anymore details, or to see how the rest of her day went. But I will later.

You know when you are looking at that mischievous little girl, and she is looking back at you with those big beautiful eyes, you cannot help but wonder what kind of a person she will grow up to be.

Today I got that answer. And I could not have hoped for a better one.

Daddy's proud of you sweetheart.

But of course you already know that. Don't you?



85 comments:

  1. Hugh G. Rection6:29 PM

    My friend, you have an awesome daughter, I have one too, may I wish that upon all. Jesse, your blog brings me back day after day.

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  2. Wow. Gryphen.
    I am so glad your daughter is ok, and hope that those in the accident will end up unharmed.

    Thanks for the amazing story.
    V

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  3. aj weishar6:31 PM

    You raised her. Today's event should answer your question about how you did. Her reaction was a combination of upbringing and her person, aka soul, heart. What a beautiful caring person.

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  4. ckennedy6:38 PM

    Sweet, brave, outstanding young woman. Way to go, both of you!

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  5. Anonymous6:39 PM

    I had tears clouding my eyes reading your account of the events. My daughters are still teen and pre-teens, but every day we work damn hard to make them the best human beings they can be.

    Congratulations. It's so good to see the same values in others.

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    1. Anonymous8:34 PM

      I am amazed with the tears in my eyes as well, Anon.
      You did a super job in raising your daughter,Jesse! Bravo!!

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    2. Anonymous9:32 PM

      OK, can't stop the tears...didn't expect that at all.

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  6. Anonymous6:43 PM

    I agree with all of the above commenters: You raised a beautiful (inside and out!) daughter!

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  7. Anonymous6:44 PM

    Glad you daughter (and everyone else) is okay!!!!

    O/T: Did you notice that the author of the articles that made Alaska legislators pissed at Palin were written by none other than Rebecca A. Mansour (2009)?

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    Grpyhen, I'm surprised the Alaskan media hasn't picked up on the emails from AK Republican Rep Mike Hawker blasting Sarah Palin and her communications guy about C4P's hit pieces on him and Ramras during the whole kerfuffle between Palin and the Legislature when she tried to reject some stimulus funds.

    Here is a really good string of emails between Rep. Mike Hawker and Palin's commnications guy: http://www.documentcloud.org/documents/314978-pra-gsp02-0023760.html

    Another one where Hawker warns there will be hell to pay because of a C4P article about him: http://www.documentcloud.org/documents/320363-pra-gsp02-0024035.html

    And here Hawker calls Palin and her communications people "sad cowards" for yet another c4p hit piece: http://www.documentcloud.org/documents/320365-pra-gsp02-0024052.html

    Palin's reaction to some of these emails is interesting. She kinda sorta but without really doing so denies any involvement with c4p. Her flying monkeys did a lot of damage to her relationship with AK legislators, including Republican ones.

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    1. Anonymous8:38 PM

      From: Rep. Mike Hawker [mailto:Representative_Mike_Hawker@legis.state.ak.us] Sent: Monday, June 29, 2009 9:50 AM To: Nizich, Michael A (GOV) Subject: RE: Rep. Jay Ramras' AGIA Conflict of Interest


      It is only a matter of time before this one blows up in your face if she doesn't publicly denounce her national team's contract bloggers. How about Senate judiciary committee hearings, chaired by Hollis French, to investigate the connection between the governor, her National PAC and its laundered interference in Alaska political process? Just how close to illegal you are operating is a question everyone is interested in.<<<

      WTF is this about? She quit just a few days later. "Senate judiciary hearings?" What is the "laundered interference?"

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    2. Anonymous9:49 PM

      What's the url for this one please!

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    3. Anonymous9:55 PM

      DOH!

      it is

      http://www.documentcloud.org/documents/314978-pra-gsp02-0023760.html

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    4. Anonymous11:49 PM

      I'm lovin it.

      Looks like an iceberg back in 2009.

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  8. Anonymous6:44 PM

    BTW: I like this type of commenting, where you can have the option to respond to any one!

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  9. Anonymous6:46 PM

    Ah, you're a great dad, and she's a great person!! Congrats!

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  10. eclecticsandra6:51 PM

    We never know what life will expect. Too many times we can say we should have done more, but most of the time we did more than anyone should. Feel blessed that you raised an unselfish child.

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    1. Anita Winecooler7:04 PM

      So very true, eclecticsandra! I wish I could get back all the sleep I lost worrying early on, so far I've been lucky, and I wouldn't change a thing.

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  11. Anonymous6:56 PM

    wow...i'm in tears reading this. what a kind little girl, it reminds me of little niece. good job daddy gryphen!

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    1. Phew! I thought I'd be the only one choking up at this :)

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  12. Anonymous7:00 PM

    You can both be proud of what you are and who you are.

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  13. Anonymous7:02 PM

    Now she knows how the world really works. How can they drive past? vs. How could I not stop?

    Is that a typewriter she's using?

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  14. Anonymous7:04 PM

    Great story! I'm so thankful for kind people such as your daughter! Her actions will live on in the stories told over and over as these two families remember"that day!"
    c

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  15. Anonymous7:11 PM

    What a wonderful caring daughter you have...I know you're proud of her.

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  16. Whenever you write about your daughter I turn into a sobbing marshmallow!

    How wonderful that you are in each other's lives.

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    1. Me, too (sucker for Gryph-daughter stories)!

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  17. Ailsa7:12 PM

    You should be proud. Hell, I'm proud and I don't even know her!

    Hope all is well.

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  18. erica from dallas7:17 PM

    I am crying right now.
    My daughters are 22 and 24.That is we hope my children will turn out to be.
    I am so glad your daughter is ok.Give her a hug from me.

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  19. TNbluedot7:18 PM

    You shouldn't be surprised... I'm not and I doubt any of your regular readers will be. You're a good man and you did a good job! Thank you. Hugs!

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    1. ThanksABunchJohn8:35 PM

      I'm replying! What fun!

      Anyway, I agree whole-heartedly, you raise your children by example and with the advise you choose to give them. Gryphen, she had no choice but to care for her fellow man, it has been ingrained.

      My son makes me proud everyday, and the only time he was in trouble was when he was defending a child who was being bullied. He's since befriended that kid who's quite popular now. My son wants to be a Democrat politician, he's a freshman in HS and all tests (and his counselor) show it's the right path for him. I take credit and am thrilled about my future contribution to this world.

      As you should, and obviously are.

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  20. telah7:18 PM

    Nice birthday gift. What's she gonna do next year? Lift a frickin semi off of a truck full of orphans?

    You're a lucky dad, and she is a lucky girl.

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  21. How very nice to see this. I love having a glimpse into your lives. Thanks for sharing

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  22. The apple has not fallen far... :)

    ... hopefully the gentleman and the ladies are OK, this evening.

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  23. Anonymous7:47 PM

    Bravo to your daughter for having the courage, intelligence and kindness to help the accident victims and bravo to you for raising a remarkable young woman!

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    1. Anonymous9:54 PM

      You done good daddy!!! I am proud of the caring compassionate young lady you raised!! and Proud of YOU for teaching her kindness.....

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  24. The fact that the 'apple doesn't fall far from the tree' is evident here. Huge props to you for raising such a stellar daughter. You make the world a better place! And please give her a hug from an impressed commenter on Maui? Lovely that she stopped to help.

    Peace, all. Great comments today.

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  25. Pamela8:00 PM

    Your daughter is proving to us old timers that world we leave behind will be well taken care of by thoughtful, caring individuals like your daughter. YA' done good, grasshopper!

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  26. Anonymous8:05 PM

    I am proud too! She is what we all hope for our progeny — to love and care for others! It made my heart soar to read this!

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  27. Anonymous8:07 PM

    Isn't it wonderful to have kids you can be proud of! You raised a responsible girl. Congratulations.

    So happy you finally have a system we can reply to others! I couldn't keep track of all of the posted times. :-) This may slow down the troll traffic. Thanks Gryph!

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  28. Anonymous8:07 PM

    Awwww, good job, dad.

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  29. If that ain't the cutest looking little girl! I'm sure this face is what you must see every time you look at her....huh Gryphen!

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  30. Anonymous8:13 PM

    This is from an earlier thread but I wanted to repost it. I may be missing something but if the hospital was commenting about what seems like SOME event in SEPTEMBER 2008 rather than December- and if as this seems to dictate it was only something related to Bristol and Levi- holy smokes, this could be HUGE!

    Ok I just tried to copy and paste and this new blogger form won't let me. GINA M can you please re post the comment about the email that seems like the hospital is telling the gov's office about a Bristol and Levi baby in SEPTEMBER!

    And of course I have to say, good on ya Gryphen for raising a classy compassionate young lady. And what a cute mug on her little picture!

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  31. THIS is really what blogs are for! I'm glad you're bragging to US about what a great daughter you have.

    Give her a pat on the back from me. Atta girl!

    (I'm glad she didn't have to do CPR or deliver that woman's baby...)

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  32. Anonymous8:14 PM

    Wow, those calls just get a parent's heart going. Am so glad everyone is OK. People driving on slushy, or icy roads way too fast and don't anticipate they might have to stop suddenly, like the driver in front of those women. They were very lucky it happened just when your daughter was passing by. She's the good samaritan. You should be proud.

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  33. Gasman8:26 PM

    Gryphen,
    Mazel tov!

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  34. Cracklin' Charlie8:38 PM

    Good job, Dad and daughter!

    Glad to hear that everyone is okay.

    And I love the new comment feature.

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  35. Anonymous8:48 PM

    Aaaahhhh what a proud parent moment.
    It is moments like this in life that you knwo you are a great parent :)
    Thank you for giving the world such a wonderful young lady!

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  36. Anonymous8:54 PM

    The pic of your daughter up there looks alot like you, Jesse. ;-)

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  37. You have every reason to be very proud of your daughter. I'm not surprised that she was the one who stopped to help. That's kind of what you do every day by stopping to help the public know about the wreck and her family who live in the town of Wasilla and the casualties that they leave in their wake. You could have "driven on by" and not stayed on Palin, just like so many others did. You too could have enjoyed a risk free life rather than the threats and slanders that have been directed at you but you chose to stop and help. You have every reason to be proud of yourself as well as your daughter.

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  38. Just to follow up my daughter did indeed have to cross three lanes of traffic to to get the the upside car. "I just held up and made them stop Dad." (Anybody know what a heart attack feels like? Because I might be having one.)

    She also said that she was the first to stop and that she had to get a crowbar out of her truck to pry the doors open and get the people out.

    By the way she is STILL pissed that only one other person stopped. (A woman in military garb, driving a van.)

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    1. Anonymous11:10 PM

      Not only did you raise a brave and caring daughter but a smart one at that!

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    2. BJeFF3:32 AM

      Thanks for your wonderful story about your wonderful daughter, and also, (too), for this 'follow-up' ♥

      All has been very touching, and I appreciate your sharing her with us. :o) This picture you sent is so cute -- She was/is adorable -- looks a lot like her Dad.

      (O/T -- also wanted to try out this 'reply' option -- should be quite an addition here. Thanks for all you do for everyone!!)

      LuvYa ♥

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    3. Anita Winecooler7:15 PM

      Gryphen, Karma is a boomerang and an elephant. Just as the good your daughter did will someday come back to her in spades, the ignorance and cold-hearted folks who didn't stop will eventually get the same treatment. Hopefully, someone like you or your daughter will be closeby and maybe they'll never forget.

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  39. Betsy S9:46 PM

    I hope that that new baby is be named after your wonderful daughter. Well done, both of you!!

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  40. Anonymous9:49 PM

    Sounds like you done raised your daughter right, G, making your buttons pop with pride and all.

    I can think of a family of delinquents (won't mention any names) that might have stopped to free a few pocket books and maybe some tires and rims.

    Glad to hear everything turned out OK.

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  41. Anonymous10:12 PM

    Gryphen, I am on the other side of the world from you (frequent visitor, non-frequent commentor) and as soon as I started reading your post, before I even found out what happened, I was tearing up. You should be very proud of your daughter. And you deserve your 'self-indulgence', in being proud of her. Good on you both and may your paths be safe, the sun at your heads and the wind at your backs. Namaste

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  42. Anonymous10:20 PM

    What a neat daughter you have! I'm glad she is OK and was able to help like she did. I'm proud of her too!!!

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  43. Anonymous11:12 PM

    Well, daddy, I think your daughter might have earned a few more loads of clean laundry for this one, eh?

    On top of that she unintentionally allowed us all a troll free zone.

    I thank her on both counts.... you did well, but, I have never doubted you or your daughter for that matter. Peace out!

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  44. Anonymous11:18 PM

    I was 17 and on a date with whom I thought was a great guy. On the way home (he was driving), we came upon a little sports car that was upside down on someone’s lawn. As we came even to the car, I saw people inside so I yelled for my date to pull over. He said "no" and kept driving. I screamed at him to stop so he did. As I ran back towards the car I saw people were running from the house. The accident happened seconds before we arrived. It was scary because there was no headroom in that little car and we were worried about neck injuries. Both of the passengers were conscious, but really out of it. We got them out trying not to jostle them too much. I think they were fine: we left before the ambulance came. As I went back to the car, I realized my date had never gotten out. I was shocked and he made a joke about me thinking I was Florence Nightingale, or something. His reaction rather turned me off so that was our last date. Funny thing is he is a police officer now. Maybe he was just too overwhelmed at 17, but that has stuck with me when judging character and whom I want to spend time with. Good on ya Gryphen, you raised a kind and courageous daughter.

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  45. Anonymous11:21 PM

    You are a lucky man, Gryphen. She has made you proud.

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  46. Anonymous1:16 AM

    Wonderful story...great to hear.

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  47. Anonymous1:27 AM

    ...what they said!!!

    Great job for both of you.

    --Melanmoney

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  48. Anonymous1:31 AM

    It's sad there are so many that 'won't get involved'. I'm not just talking today when your daughter did a 'good thing' -- the 'right thing'. I'm talking even 3 decades ago. Sadly, things haven't changed.

    I stopped 30 plus years ago for a car hit by a dump truck that ran a red light. Saw it out side of my eye & I stopped before it hit me. Car beside me didn't. 2 seriously injured but recovered. After helping, police statements, and I too was only one to stop -- went to work and threw up. Explained lateness & Boss said I was being stupid. Really? Really? Stupid? "Well here's reality -- take your "F" job and shove it!!". I did - I quit my job. I was lucky to be alive & didn't need stunned and stupid -- I worked for lawyers. Yea.

    I know I could never be a nurse - before this and to this day. Like your daughter & you and some others commenting - I react to emergencies without a thought and toss my cookies later as I don't do blood well at all. Weakest stomach walking! But it's never stopped me.

    Congrats to your daughter. We're all proud of her.

    Bet Daddy did the laundry!!! ROFL!!!

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  49. LoveAndKnishesFromBrooklyn1:39 AM

    Thanks to your parenting, Gryphen, a truckload of people who desperately needed it got help yesterday from one fabulous young woman. My best to her, and PLEASE do a followup story on this. Be safe, both of you!

    PS--I like the new comment format!

    L&KfromB

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  50. Great post. Great daughter! And yes, a great and rightfully proud Dad!

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  51. Great post, Gryph.

    Situations like you described always make me think of a line from a Neil Diamond song. The line is: "you're alive, you might as well be there."

    Sounds like your daughter was "there."

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  52. Anonymous2:31 AM

    Thanks for sharing Gyrphen! What a wonderful daughter you have!

    Carrie

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  53. you should be very proud of your daughter! that was a very good,selfless thing for her to do

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  54. Well, its morning here in Florida and you are always my first read, Gryphen.
    So I am starting the day with tears in my eyes, but so happy that you have the experience of knowing what a great father you are!

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  55. angela4:00 AM

    Gryphen . . . . .
    I have only tears and a smile.

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  56. Anonymous4:33 AM

    What a good child you raised. These are the kinds of children who make us proud.

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  57. You should be proud of your daughter and I thank you for posting this. It may make people think, the next time they see an opportunity to help someone. It certainly affected me.

    And God bless you and your daughter. That kind of goodness will always come back to you in one form or another! : )

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  58. Anonymous6:38 AM

    You raised her well...no doubt she'll always do the right thing. No surprise there :)

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  59. Anonymous6:49 AM

    Reading this got my own adrenaline pumping! Your little girl is my heroine today and you should proudly flaunt the title, PROUD POP!

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  60. It is official. Your Daughter has great Parents

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  61. Amy in Juneau10:21 AM

    I am balling right now! What an amazing young woman you have raised Jesse. Thank you for sharing this story with us. Your daughter is awesome.

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  62. Thank you for this post - I saw that accident and wondered. I did not stop to help (so ashamed now) just as emergency responders were approaching.
    I'm proud of your daughter, too, and thank you for letting us know everyone could get out of the vehicle.

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  63. Anonymous10:53 AM

    This is a great story - thanks for sharing & glad everyone is okay.

    Also - LOVE the new mobile readability!

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  64. She's wonderful--brave, caring, smart, and beautiful. Anyone would be proud to have a daughter like her.

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  65. Anonymous4:51 PM

    Well done Gryph's daughter. You done your daddy proud.

    Seriously, Well done, to you both.

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  66. Marleycat5:59 PM

    Oh my goodness! What a beautiful post about a beautiful daughter, Gryph! It took me so long to read the other posts, and do all those delectable REPLIES - I was going to just go to bed. Glad I didn't! What's that saying . . . . the proof's in the pudding? You can tell by that picture of her as a little girl she would not be one who would walk away from helping others in need! This is what all parents want most of all - to raise a child to be a moral, decent human being who helps because that's the thing you do - selflessly! She's brave - I would have been highly scared of that baby coming on the side of the Highway during an AK winter, YIKES!

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  67. Anita Winecooler6:45 PM

    Kids learn what they live, she has one great teacher, a man with heart, soul, conviction and courage. There's a special bond between Fathers and Daughters. I see it with my daughter and my husband, I had it with my Dad and I miss him but still feel that bond.

    BTW, I have a similar photo of my son, everytime I see it it makes me smile.

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  68. Anita Winecooler6:54 PM

    Great Catch! For all the lambasteing of the media and her distrust of anyone outside her "circle" of influence, She's gasping in her replies much like her famous quitting speech! And remember, she had time to think before composing these replies.

    What a paranoid low-life!

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  69. Anonymous9:10 PM

    You should be proud. she is someone anyone would be glad to have around in a crisis. she kept her head and acted with good sense. She is the epitome of what Alaska has been - people helping and caring about each other. You are fortunate to have her there with you.

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