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Thursday, October 31, 2013
Never too young to appreciate music. Baby's response to her mother's singing is precious beyond belief.
Mom has quite a set of pipes, and the baby's roller coaster of emotions is somewhat amazing to watch.
Poor thing is terrified. He calms down when she stops and then starts crying again when she pipes back up. He is confused as he sees his mom, but the voice is not quite right or what he is used to hearing. It is interesting to watch though and really tells us just how important mommy's faces are and how smart these little guys can be. My kids did the same thing. That probably explains a lot!!!!! ScaraP probably used a chainsaw to get the same cause and effect behavior from her kids.
I agree with the other posters. That baby is not emotionally "moved" by her mother's singing, she is scared of her mother's behavior and noise that is out of the ordinary. But the mother is an idiot who cannot read her baby's mood and just keeps recording and singing. But hey, she got her 15 minutes right?
He didn't care that his mom has a great set of pipes, just that she was bellowing out in a different tone of voice than he was used to coming from her. Not soothing, cooing sounds. I would have stopped at the first tear. It looks like he had no idea what was "upsetting" her.
I think this is a perfect example of how influential a parent's attitude and behaviour are on children
I agree with you and all the prior comments. As dmoreno56 says, just watch baby start to smile when the mother pauses - a smile that weakens with subsequent pauses as the child gets increasingly upset.
"I think this is a perfect example of how influential a parent's attitude and behaviour are on children." I agree. It is also an example of how parents can be really bad at "reading" their baby's actions and reactions. I have seen this mostly in self-absorbed parents.
Ailsa "It is also an example of how parents can be really bad at "reading" their baby's actions and reactions."
I agree- I don't think that she's being a mean mom. I just think the baby is obviously not old enough to relate to words yet, and the loud, sorrowful wailing coming from his mom was upsetting. Children's songs are more tonal than wordy since that is what they respond to best at this early age. I think he was stressed listening to her, not sure of the 'message' she was sending to him.
Poor baby....he is terrified by her horrible voice. It's very close to emotional child abuse. What kind of mother would continue doing something that makes her baby cry?
How could the mom treat her child that way? I mean, recording his private very personal emotions in closeup and putting them on YouTube? It's such a bitch move. The poor kid needs comforting, not international exposure. Mom trying to launch a singing career?
Wow these comments are quite bastardly... Watched this yesterday, also showed it to my 18yr old son and asked for his reaction. He said he was moved by the emotions and pleased to see the interactions between mother and child so moving at such a young age. And yes he had a bit of a sniffle in his voice. Loved this.
I understand some of the poster's feelings about this video. I would also bet that she sang that song while the child was in utero and he or she "heard" it. I know some songs my daughter "heard" me sing are her favorites now a days, Shake it Up Baby is one that comes to mind. Yes, the voice might be different but I am sure the child has heard her sing before in many situations. You don't have a voice like that and not use it.
There are are many studies of babies responding to different expressions of their mothers. Here is an excerpt from just one example. I can't link to a professional journal here, but I will provide a citation.
Watch the baby's mouth.
"In response to mother's sad expression, infants predominantly engage in "mouthing" behavior that included lip and tongue sucking and pushing the lips in and out. This appears to be a "self-soothing" response to the sad expressions."
Science News, Vol 131, No.7, p. 104
I think the question is does one feel it's OK to interact with a baby in a way that makes the baby sufficiently unhappy that he or she has to self-comfort? People are going to have different opinions about that.
This baby is scared! My little ones would have been terrified by this. I had a friend who always talked to her babies in a soothing voice and when she was with other babies she would use a loud and very disturbing sing-song voice and the babies would be terrified by her. I think this is what is going on here and this mother is torturing this sweet baby. The idea the baby is responding to her voice in an emotional way because her voice is so compelling is somewhat disturbing; it assumes a lot! What kind of person can watch a baby cry like this and not change the behavior causing the distress?
The first time I saw this video, I only watched a small part of it, because I found it rather disturbing. After reading the comments here, I did indeed look at it all the way through and was even more disturbed and angered, because at the end the mother soothingly tells this sad infant that "it's only a song, baby". So the mother is aware of her impact and does it anyway? When you look at the progression of that baby's emotions, you can ascertain that he has heard this before and dreads what is coming next. That, my friends, makes the mother a cruel person. The commenter above who said "the mother got her 15 minutes of fame" had it right. Please, don't call her a bitch, because I don't think a dog mother would do this to her offspring.
I guess it's unanimous. Just because I could move my child to tears from my singing (Believe me, I can, but not in a "good way") doesn't mean it's "cute". If Mommy wants to be a star, she should do her own video. I think a lot of parents mean well, but what purpose does having your kid's mug all over the internet serve?
I DID see an amazing clip of a child who received a cochlear implant, a little older than this child, and he was genuinely moved to tears. His mom stopped talking, scooped him up and later signed, which calmed him down immediately.
My daughter was extremely reactive to classical music when she was an infant as she felt an emotional connection to the ups and downs of the music. It's the only music I listened to while I was pregnant with her. So, first of all, I would have to see the mother's expressions as she's singing to the baby to gage whether or not she's acting out of using facial expressions to get her baby to react that way. Secondly, the baby's mouthing and smacking reminded me of when my daughter was ready to breastfeed or eat. So, in my honest opinion, baby girl didn't want to hear no stinkin' song....she was ready to get her grub on.
Shut up, bitch, and hug your baby!
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ReplyDeletePoor thing is terrified. He calms down when she stops and then starts crying again when she pipes back up. He is confused as he sees his mom, but the voice is not quite right or what he is used to hearing. It is interesting to watch though and really tells us just how important mommy's faces are and how smart these little guys can be. My kids did the same thing. That probably explains a lot!!!!! ScaraP probably used a chainsaw to get the same cause and effect behavior from her kids.
ReplyDeleteI agree with the other posters. That baby is not emotionally "moved" by her mother's singing, she is scared of her mother's behavior and noise that is out of the ordinary. But the mother is an idiot who cannot read her baby's mood and just keeps recording and singing. But hey, she got her 15 minutes right?
ReplyDeleteHe didn't care that his mom has a great set of pipes, just that she was bellowing out in a different tone of voice than he was used to coming from her. Not soothing, cooing sounds. I would have stopped at the first tear. It looks like he had no idea what was "upsetting" her.
ReplyDeleteI think this is a perfect example of how influential a parent's attitude and behaviour are on children
I agree with you and all the prior comments. As dmoreno56 says, just watch baby start to smile when the mother pauses - a smile that weakens with subsequent pauses as the child gets increasingly upset.
Delete"I think this is a perfect example of how influential a parent's attitude and behaviour are on children." I agree. It is also an example of how parents can be really bad at "reading" their baby's actions and reactions. I have seen this mostly in self-absorbed parents.
Ailsa "It is also an example of how parents can be really bad at "reading" their baby's actions and reactions."
DeleteI agree- I don't think that she's being a mean mom. I just think the baby is obviously not old enough to relate to words yet, and the loud, sorrowful wailing coming from his mom was upsetting. Children's songs are more tonal than wordy since that is what they respond to best at this early age. I think he was stressed listening to her, not sure of the 'message' she was sending to him.
Poor baby....he is terrified by her horrible voice. It's very close to emotional child abuse. What kind of mother would continue doing something that makes her baby cry?
ReplyDelete1. Her voice isn't bad. Shes got natural talent.
Delete2. I think the media is reading positive emotion in the baby. I've NEVER seen a baby weep like that and be content.
How could the mom treat her child that way? I mean, recording his private very personal emotions in closeup and putting them on YouTube? It's such a bitch move. The poor kid needs comforting, not international exposure. Mom trying to launch a singing career?
ReplyDeleteWow these comments are quite bastardly...
ReplyDeleteWatched this yesterday, also showed it to my 18yr old son and asked for his reaction. He said he was
moved by the emotions and pleased to see the interactions between mother and child so moving at such a young age.
And yes he had a bit of a sniffle in his voice. Loved this.
I understand some of the poster's feelings about this video. I would also bet that she sang that song while the child was in utero and he or she "heard" it. I know some songs my daughter "heard" me sing are her favorites now a days, Shake it Up Baby is one that comes to mind. Yes, the voice might be different but I am sure the child has heard her sing before in many situations. You don't have a voice like that and not use it.
ReplyDeleteThere are are many studies of babies responding to different expressions of their mothers. Here is an excerpt from just one example. I can't link to a professional journal here, but I will provide a citation.
ReplyDeleteWatch the baby's mouth.
"In response to mother's sad expression, infants predominantly engage in "mouthing" behavior that included lip and tongue sucking and pushing the lips in and out. This appears to be a "self-soothing" response to the sad expressions."
Science News, Vol 131, No.7, p. 104
I think the question is does one feel it's OK to interact with a baby in a way that makes the baby sufficiently unhappy that he or she has to self-comfort? People are going to have different opinions about that.
This baby is scared! My little ones would have been terrified by this. I had a friend who always talked to her babies in a soothing voice and when she was with other babies she would use a loud and very disturbing sing-song voice and the babies would be terrified by her. I think this is what is going on here and this mother is torturing this sweet baby. The idea the baby is responding to her voice in an emotional way because her voice is so compelling is somewhat disturbing; it assumes a lot! What kind of person can watch a baby cry like this and not change the behavior causing the distress?
ReplyDeleteIt is weird. Ive never seen a baby shed tears in a happy way.
DeleteThe first time I saw this video, I only watched a small part of it, because I found it rather disturbing.
ReplyDeleteAfter reading the comments here, I did indeed look at it all the way through and was even more disturbed and angered, because at the end the mother soothingly tells this sad infant that "it's only a song, baby". So the mother is aware of her impact and does it anyway? When you look at the progression of that baby's emotions, you can ascertain that he has heard this before and dreads what is coming next. That, my friends, makes the mother a cruel person. The commenter above who said "the mother got her 15 minutes of fame" had it right.
Please, don't call her a bitch, because I don't think a dog mother would do this to her offspring.
I guess it's unanimous. Just because I could move my child to tears from my singing (Believe me, I can, but not in a "good way") doesn't mean it's "cute". If Mommy wants to be a star, she should do her own video. I think a lot of parents mean well, but what purpose does having your kid's mug all over the internet serve?
ReplyDeleteI DID see an amazing clip of a child who received a cochlear implant, a little older than this child, and he was genuinely moved to tears. His mom stopped talking, scooped him up and later signed, which calmed him down immediately.
I have been part of the IM community for years. I had no idea we had so many parenting experts here. The baby is a girl, not a boy.
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My daughter was extremely reactive to classical music when she was an infant as she felt an emotional connection to the ups and downs of the music. It's the only music I listened to while I was pregnant with her. So, first of all, I would have to see the mother's expressions as she's singing to the baby to gage whether or not she's acting out of using facial expressions to get her baby to react that way. Secondly, the baby's mouthing and smacking reminded me of when my daughter was ready to breastfeed or eat. So, in my honest opinion, baby girl didn't want to hear no stinkin' song....she was ready to get her grub on.
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